Category: Self Help & Motivational

Accent Coach Nicole Kaup

When Life Gives you Lemons…

4 things to do to make the best of things: 1. Count your blessings. 2. Set your intention. 3. Be the epicenter for something good. 4 Use this time wisely.

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Are you a Morning Person? I’ve Got News for you in Improve your English Speaking

Do you hate mornings? Is it hard for you to get out of bed and get your day started? I must confess – I am not a morning person. I like to stay up late at night, sometimes watching TV or reading, sometimes working (by choice). I am not lazy. I enjoy nighttime more and feel that I get my best work done later in the day, and there’s nothing wrong with that.

I do want to share with you, however, a book I came across a couple of years ago while I was living in China. No, it’s not a Chinese book. It’s a book written in English. It’s called “The Miracle Morning” by Hal Enrod (https://amzn.to/2LraOTX)Well, I have to confess, that’s not exactly what the book is about, but it is has changed my life in other unexpected ways.

This book is powerful! It’s all about investing in you. It’s about putting you first, being your best self, analyzing your life, setting goals and being awesome. It’s so motivational. And it really gets you thinking. There are a series of preliminary exercises first where you rate your life, breaking it down into its various areas, like work, home, relationships, leisure time, etc. Then you determine where you want to be in each area, creating short and long term goals, and strategies for reaching those goals. This in itself is a really powerful exercise.

Then you do a 30 day challenge. Don’t you just love challenges? The whole idea of the Miracle Morning is that each and every day, you put yourself first. The first hour of your day is dedicated to you. That right there will make you a morning person! Imagine starting your morning every day gently, doing things you enjoy and working on your own inner peace and personal growth and excellence. That’s a great feeling and something to really get out of bed for. In this 30 day challenge, you get the opportunity to make huge changes in your life and create a new routine and new habits.

I have to say that I faithfully did my Miracle Morning (MM) routine for quite a while. I did it when I was working a regular schedule, doing my “me” time in the morning before teaching my classes. It had a big impact on my life. At this point, I no longer do the MM things in the morning, but have incorporated a lot of the new habits into my life, such as meditating, practicing gratitude, etc. And every time I’m reminded of “The Miracle Morning”, I think “I should do another 30 day challenge”. It really helps set you on track for a new positive morning routine. Actually, it’s probably time for another formal analysis of my short and long term goals and a creation of strategies to achieve them too.

And if you’re wondering, I’m still not a morning person. I still find the quiet, dark stillness of the night hours to be so peaceful and it sparks my creativity. And I practice the various parts of the Miracle Morning at different times of the day and week, but I continue to do most of them on a regular basis. I encourage everyone to read this powerful little book, and do it now! https://amzn.to/2LraOTX Time flies! Before you know it, another month has passed, and then another year, and so on. It’s time to invest in you, so you can live the life of your dreams.

You might be wondering what all this has to do with improving your English. Well, let me explain. As in anything, if we don’t have clear goals and schedule time to work toward achieving those goals, we find that time passes very quickly and we haven’t accomplished anything. So, I want to stress the importance of goal setting and scheduling daily time for practice. And studies show that when we program time into our morning routine, whether it be for language learning, exercise or whatever, we tend to stick with it better. We often find too many distractions later in the day, and it’s easy to let our practice slip. So, therefore, I think your own personal Miracle Morning practice is so valuable. And you don’t need to buy a book to work on yourself if you don’t want to. You just need to set goals and establish strategies for reaching them.

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Here’s wishing you a dream life full of blessings.

Nicole

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Speak English better- Remember a Smile goes a long way in American Culture

I want to talk to you a little about one of the reasons you may be losing opportunities in the American world. Surprisingly, it may not be your accent. Sometimes, people who speak English really clearly and have only a minor accent tell me they need to improve their English. When this happens, I am reminded that there may be an issue that goes beyond the spoken word. People automatically gravitate towards others who are like them. They feel comfortable with similar people and they trust them, since they share common values.

To be more readily accepted into the American workplace and social circles, you may have to adopt new behaviors that allow you to be perceived as similar to the main culture. For example, in conversation, Americans generally smile and make eye contact and are somewhat animated when they speak, speaking in a loud voice and showing some emotion. If your speech is monotone or flat and lacking emotion, you may seem unfriendly, uninterested and unapproachable.

But the good news is, you can make your speech sound friendlier by adding more pitch variation and smiling. Act professionally, but don’t appear too serious. You should include more ups and downs in the melody of your speech. You should learn to make small talk. Asking someone how they are, talking about the weather, discussing the weekend can help you build a friendly rapport. You don’t have to turn into an American, but you may need to modify things a bit so that Americans feel comfortable with you and see you as someone they can trust.

Americans are generally light-hearted and friendly. Some outsiders describe this as fake, but really, it’s our culture. Just because an American smiles and chats with you doesn’t mean they are your friend. Don’t be fooled. We just treat everyone this way.

Rule of thumb: treat everyone you meet like they’re a friend and you’re happy to see them. See if this doesn’t change things for you. It really may not be your accent getting in the way at all. The good news is that the solution is probably a lot easier than changing your accent. You just need to appear friendly and trustworthy. Don’t forget to smile!